Rather, as Jane Ward, an associate professor of women’s studies at the University of California, Riverside lays out in her 2015 book Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men, straight men hook up with other guys to “reaffirm their masculinity” (and whiteness). How “straight” these men are isn’t exactly clear, but according to what scant research exists on heterosexual men who have sex with queer guys, it’s not an emotional or physical attraction that draws them to us (or at least they won’t admit that it is). Now, I couldn’t tell you exactly how many straight-identified men hook up with queer men like Alex - the dualing facts are that most men who hook up with other men don’t identify as straight, and most straight men won’t admit to having sex with another dude, making this a hard topic to research - but as both myself and a handful of my bi and gay friends have experienced, it’s quite a lot. But hetero guys? “I can’t even keep count of how many straight men I’ve fucked. “As someone who is very effeminate and nonconforming, gay men don’t really look for me,” he says. It’s not that Alex, a gay 26-year-old man from New York City, seeks out straight men to hook up with - they simply flock to him in droves.
